…that’s what little girls are made of.
Do you remember that poem?
I would disagree now.
Girls can be extremely nasty creatures. I say this not as a generalisation but as an observation. I do know there are girls and women who are probably made of “all things nice”. But there’s some that are not.
Girls nowadays seem to be nastier than ever. Bitchier than ever. And no, I’m not talking of grown women. Rather, I’m talking about the teenies and the tweenies.
What has happened to them? Why are they so nasty?
When boys bully other boys, it’s usually physical — the odd-punch up and it’s forgotten. In the worse cases of course, there’s a lot more physical and emotional bullying referring to the not so blokey-blokes as gay and making other such homosexual innuendos.
But girls…girls can be backstabbers. They can choose not to like another girl just because she may not be as pretty or may be wearing glasses or may be a tomboy or God forbid, eats! And they are much meaner and much more sly.
It’s the nasty comments.
It’s the dirty looks.
It’s the ignoring.
And the spreading of rumours.
And of course, in this day and age, it’s through the likes of blogs and social networking websites.
I have a confession. I was a bully too. But I have apologised to the person. At the same time, I have been a victim — in kindergarten. I had to tear up another girl’s book in order to be part of a group. Yes, kindergarten. I got into trouble with the teacher. I remember the day as clearly as though it was yesterday.
I never did get punished for the other bullying as a teenager. But I think that hurt a lot more because I hurt someone else much more. And that was punishment enough.
Why am I talking about this?
It’s because I am dealing with this in my line of work. And while I am trying to educate these girls, I honestly do not see much hope. How is it possible when everyone ‘cool’ on the television and in the media is portrayed as nasty? When reality television loves nasty people? When putting others down is portrayed as being funny?
All I can do is pray and have faith that some day, these young girls will learn a lesson and change their ways to become fine women.
I guess, all I can do, is hope…
…hope for the best.
Until next time,