During a conversation with some girl friends last night, one of them mentioned about being back in the dating scene. She has been casually going on dates and said that the guys have been paying for the dates.
Now I have this extremely independent streak which does not under any circumstance, let the other person pay for me. (If I don’t have cash on me at the moment it’s a different story, but I will pay them back). Even on the few dates that I have been on, I’ve been a stickler and have never let the bloke pay. I mean, I earn my money. I pay for my food or drink or movie ticket. I believe that even in future, I will be sticking to my rule.
When I said that to my girl friends, a couple of the others were adamant about letting the guy pay. According to them, if the guy wants to spend time with you, he pays for the meal. But to me, a guy paying for you is an indication of depending on the guy. Now I know it sounds very black-and-white when it shouldn’t be the case…after all, everything has a grey area.
But I guess I wonder…women talk about equality. But then, at the same time, if they are earning, why have the guy pay for you? Isn’t that de-valuing that right to equality? I can understand if you are married and you have a joint account of some sort, then it’s money you are putting in together. But if it’s just going out on dates, or for that matter even in a committed relationship, I don’t see how you can have the other person pay for you.
I am sure there’s several other opinions on this and I would love to hear them.
Am I being too harsh or trying to be too independent? I do depend on blokes (when it comes to assisting with moving furniture) so I won’t say I’m trying to be completely off depending on men.
Until next time,