6 years since I arrived as an idealistic 21 year old. Away from home for the first time. Away from family. A lot less experienced in terms of cooking, cleaning and well, just keeping house. A lot younger. A lot more inexperienced [A lot skinnier as well!!]
But how I have grown…
I learnt to cook. And bake. Even if it’s not perfect all the time. The bottom line is I can follow recipes.
I learnt to do my own laundry.
I was able to work whilst studying full time. A concept that was completely foreign to me back in India.
I graduated. And quite well. [Even better than India, thanks to more assignments here than just exams!]
I learnt to drive over the years. And bought my own car [Even if it is second-hand…it’s still mine!]
I now ‘keep house’ and work full time.
I pay my own bills. And mind you, there are several to pay! This was something done by mum back home. And it takes a lot of organisational skills!
At the same time, I understand the need for balance. By socialising occassionally with friends. Or hitting the beach. Or just staying home watching rented DVDs.
I still find it amazing. Sometimes surreal. At how far forward I have come. And just how much I have grown. Things I used to have to depend on mum for, I no longer do. [Like preparing my own lunch before work!]. I have always been considered mature by family and friends. But if anything, I have become even more mature in the last 6 years. I don’t take certain things for granted anymore. I am able to sacrifice pleasure for some necessities. I have also become so much more independent. And hence, feel more grown-up than some of my older friends here in Aus still living at home with their parents.
I am sure others out there living away from home can understand where I’m coming from.
Moving away from your family makes you appreciate them a whole lot more. And also makes you learn things you never thought you might have needed.
It makes you more confident.
And possibly more able to understand the world around.
So while there have been moments when I’ve missed my mum and dad and sister, I don’t think I would have changed anything.
Because this opportunity to live on my own and fend for myself has made me a much better person. Wiser and stronger. Adaptable and accepting.
If there is one thing I would recommend it is people move out of home before marriage…even if it is for a few months.
It’s an exciting and valuable lesson in life.
Until next time,