I find it interesting that so many people associate going to therapy as a sign of weakness. Apparently, seeking help for difficulties you are having is not a good thing. A brave person would try and put on a face and cope with all the shit that comes their way.
In fact, taking a step towards getting help in the form of therapy is one of the most courageous acts a person can do in their lifetime. It takes a lot of guts to first realise you have a problem and secondly, you cannot cope with it single handedly. It takes even more guts to take that step — an overwhelming one — and see a stranger to request that help. And finally, it takes so much more strength to disclose your private details…your private worries and fears…to that stranger.
It’s probably more so for men. The expectation for men is that they have to be “strong” in that they are not supposed to show any emotions such as anxiety or sadness or pain. Anger is good. So going to see a therapist for any of this is almost taboo. After all, they would be admitting ‘weakness’ by doing so, right?
If only people understood just how much courage it takes to seek therapy, things would probably be a lot more different. When I hear about men in particular, and see boys, who admit to having a problem and seeking therapy, I want to tell them how brave they are. In general, with the adolescents and kids and families I see, I make it a point to tell them how great it is that they are taking a step to seeking help. It’s no mean feat.
So to all the people out there who think therapy is for the weak…take my word…it isn’t. They are a lot stronger than those bottling it all up and wearing a mask for the world while living with their inner demons.
And to those of you who have taken that step to seek therapy or counselling —- good on you! It’s a hard task. But I hope it has been worth your while.
And finally, to those of you are on the fence — yes, it takes a lot of guts to ask for help. But it’s a brave thing you can do to help yourself.
It does not mean you are weak.
Until next time,