I was having this conversation the other day with a friend and with my flatmate about whether it is considered lying if you just decide to not tell someone something.
I personally think it is. My analogy or example for this was if in a relationship, one partner cheats on the other, obviously does not tell the other partner they are cheating — they are still lying.
My friend wasn’t too happy with the fact that I considered ‘lying by omission’ as a form of deceit, if you wish. She said it made things very complicated.
My flatmate agreed with me but added that it probably could only be considered ‘lying’ if the other person asked a question with regards to the situation. For example, asking a friend what they are doing over the weekend and if they don’t want you to know who they are going out with and just tell you “I’m meeting some friends”, that would probably be considered lying by omission.
I’ve had people lie to me that way. I have found out later they have lied.
I can’t say I’m happy about it but I haven’t confronted them either (since I do not like confrontations!!)
But it can hurt.
However, it also makes me aware about what I’m saying and being careful whether I’m lying by omission.
Have you ever been lied to in this manner? Or lied to someone else?
Until next time,