I will be the first to say that I’m an anxious person and I worry heaps about the future.
But now, I want your opinion as to whether I’m just worrying or whether I’ve crossed a line and apparently become paranoid.
Flatmate that owns the house (we’ll call him Housemate 1) still has another room available. Before I agreed to share this place, I was told another girl would be moving in to the current available room. A flight attendant. After taking the place, I was told, Housemate 1 did not like some stuff about her and so he had re-advertised and another guy was going to be moving in.
Now, I’ll be honest. I’m not prude nor do I have a problem living with guys…but I do honestly feel more comfortable if I’m not the only female! Still, I thought I’d give Potential Housemate 2 a chance.
3 days before Potential Housemate 2 was going to move in, he cancelled saying he found another place. Okay. Again, fair enough.
Then, Housemate 1 says 2 girls were coming to check out the place (separately). Neither of them turned up on the day they were supposed to and instead rescheduled for another day to view the place. I was away the day they came. Turns out, Housemate 1 did not particularly like them and so, they are not moving in.
Housemate 1 then tells me, he would prefer to have another guy in order to “balance things out”. I thought to myself “the only way it’ll be balanced out is if one of you is gay!” Still didn’t say anything to Housemate 1 about my preferences. Mind you, he wants my opinion in the final choice. Or so he says.
Two days ago, Housemate 1 calls me at work and says that a previous housemate of his has their lease almost up and he is thinking of asking the Ex-housemate whether he would like to share here. Oh, and just to add to it…Ex-Housemate is a bloke.
I told Housemate 1 honestly, that I would prefer a girl. Housemate 1 then tried to convince me that Ex-Housemate is not too bad and while he is a big bloke, he’s more of a gentle giant. And all I could think of was “why call me when you’ve apparently made up your mind?”
So am I being paranoid or something weird going on? I mean, it’s one thing having two guys and not wanting that. It’s a totally different thing living with two guys and not wanting that, and living with two guys who are mates. The dynamics in a household change big time when two people are already friends. I’ve seen it before. And I haven’t liked it.
So now, I’m confused.
Should I look for another place although I’ve just lived here a week? (The rent is cheap and I like the suburb!)
Should I just wait it out for another few months before I can afford my own place?
Should I insist on not having this bloke stay? (Yeah….like I could ever be that assertive!)
Or can anyone out there give me an objective answer?
Until next time,