As I visited India after 4 and half years last month, one thing hit me big time. More than the pollution. More than the constant lack of rules. More than the annoying bag-checks in every store in the shopping centres. More than the filth.
It was seeing how one or two individuals I’d known for years and was close to were so narrow minded. I thought of them as having regressed. But after talking to some mates here, I realise that we probably never openly discussed issues such as the ones we did this time and therefore, I never realised just how narrow minded they were. I have always been open-minded. My college in Bombay made me a lot more and Australia has made it even better. Just as an example of this narrow-mindedness was the issue of homosexuality (“Why are they making such a big deal of this”? was what was told by this person) and another by the same person was how some suburbs in Bombay are dangerous “because they are full of Muslims” and how another suburb had so many Christians.
What the fuck???
I honestly did not know how to respond. (Shakes head, rolls eyes)
Those comments above beat another one hands down made by another friend who thought I should seriously consider “settling down” (aka get married dammit!!!) because who would look after me if I fell sick??? My answer to this friend was — in the past 4 years, I have fallen sick and I’ve been okay. If there is a day I fall so sick that I can’t take myself to the doctor, well, my mates are always there to help. Absolute worst case scenario: There’s always a bloody cab or ambo that I can call!!!!
It just made me wonder though — these are educated people. They have done postgraduate degrees. And if they think in this manner, what hope is there?? How stagnant can one get in life that they cannot open their minds up a teeny, tiny bit to views that are not similar? That they generalise and overgeneralise (Hmm…that is done by the Indian media too though)?
At the end though, it just made me sad.
Sad to think how individuals such as these will stick by their views rigidly and not see the world around them. And if they ever decide to go outside that little comfort zone of theirs, they are in for a big shock.
Because out in this world, there’s a lot different from what’s in India. In that little suburb and its surrounding areas where we grew up.
Change is good.
But you need to have an open mind to do so.
Until next time,