Life lessons NaBloPoMo

Hope exists

I’ve been losing faith in the inherent goodness of people.

Blame that on a year of dealing with selfish adolescents whose only aim appears to be how much they can hurt another adolescent. How low they can go. How they don’t care about consequences. How they can pit one friend against the other. How they can get people to fight over them.

And I had started losing faith in people.

I had started thinking that this was it. This is what people are going to be like in the future.




Without a care for other human beings

Without a care about consequences.

But I was proven wrong this week.

And I am glad for that.

In one situation, I noticed one student help another having learning difficulties during a maths class. In another situation, I had a girl come to me out of concern for a friend. In yet another situation, I saw a teenage girl hang out with a friend because the friend was being ignored by the rest of the group. There was yet another instance of two girls sticking up for a girl in their year. And yet another where a group of girls opened their arms to another girl being left out of her group.

There is goodness out there.

It’s probably less than before. But it’s there.

And it gives me hope.

Hope that despite the number of little shits that are out there, there are others who are inherently good. Who will help out those in need. Who will look out for others.

There is hope for niceness and kindness.

Until next time,


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    November 15, 2009 at 4:46 am


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    November 15, 2009 at 4:48 am

    Hey I wrote a comment claiming for the first position. and it vanished. It said ‘connection error’
    So claiming again.


    Hope I am, so much efforts I am taking. 🙁

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    November 15, 2009 at 4:56 am

    aahh, nice post :-)…

    i get into this i-am-so-annoyed-with-people mode every once in a while when someone does something extremely sefish..i start losing hope…and right then i see someone doing something extremely selfless, you know a smile to make someone’s day, a hug to make a someone feel better..and i’m back on track believing everyone is nice :-)..

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    Psych Babbler
    November 15, 2009 at 5:00 am

    @ G: Yes you are first. And second! 🙂 Apparently there was no connection error since the comment came through…

    @ Titaxy: Oh yeah…even those small things like a smile can be so effective eh?

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    November 15, 2009 at 5:33 am

    yupe….that does it for me :-)…

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    Caitlyn Nicholas
    November 15, 2009 at 6:07 am

    As the kids get older I think a lot of them discover the joy in giving, being kind and supporting each other. And all mothers of young children are selfless on a 24/7 basis – So I suppose it depends on your perspective and where you are in life.

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    November 15, 2009 at 6:16 am

    Again the page error message so retyping my comment. Do not publish it if you’ve gotten the earlier one 🙂
    First yay! on my efforts paying off. I get the Gold AND the silver. Wowie!

    About the post- Do you think the niceness of one person amongst thousands makes a difference. The optimist in me wants to believe it does but if you think practically….!??

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    November 15, 2009 at 7:19 am

    who said Narcissism is bad.. why do u care about long as the work gets done..and i guess ur work is mostly about the cynical side of the society..i presumed that most people in your stream are either too cynical or too i can sort of get what you

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    November 15, 2009 at 8:50 am

    True. Without goodness the world sounds a bad place. 🙂

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    November 15, 2009 at 9:24 am

    Happens almost once in a while with me, where the world is coming to with these nasty, catty people!!! I was just ranting away to the guy today… But the fact is there are so much of goodness in this world, we are just seeing some bad things some times in a row…


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    Elegant Chic
    November 15, 2009 at 9:41 am

    Naaice! 🙂

    Hope is the most exciting thing in life and if we honestly believe that goodness is out there, it will come.

    Hope indeed exists but little do we realize that hope never abondons us. Infact, we abondon it.

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    November 15, 2009 at 11:34 am

    Hmm – am I wrong when I read that all the nice things were done by girls??? Maybe girls are fine, but boys are doomed to devolve into evil little fester monkeys???

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    Matt Parker
    November 15, 2009 at 11:50 am

    My my my …these adolescents 😛 😛

    Simple fact that there are good people and bad people and there are selfish people and selfless people!

    Even though one is surrounded by selfish people,there is a teen tiny chance that a selfless person is somewhere in a corner of the world.So definitely there is hope! 😀

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    A Guy and a Girl
    November 15, 2009 at 6:03 pm

    At a school dance, which was now some 15 years ago, an event still sticks out in my mind.

    A student we all knew ws being fairly reclusive. Not his normal behavior. We all palled around and enjoyed our normal activities and generally ignored him, figuring he was enjoying the result of his own self imposed exile in the corner. But one girl was saying she was worried about him.

    So she went to talk to talk to him. She spent the better part of an hour with him, chatting, laughing, and ignoring the rest of us.

    In the end, the young man’s morose demeanor turned and he came out of his caccoon and joined the crowd.

    Why do I mention this? Because 15 years ago, had I been that youg fellow, I would have relished the fact that someone came and simply asked why I was so down. And now 15 years later, I take from that lesson and make sure I am the one who actually cares.

    Hope was there then. Hope is there now. We just have to be the ones to bring it around sometimes.

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    November 16, 2009 at 7:19 am

    Good post !! but let your fears of human future turn not into reality, simply follow your heart, smile and live every small moment of life.

    You shall be tested for your integrity with ‘HOPE’ so keep hangin on to it. It helps create wonders.

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    November 16, 2009 at 7:39 am

    Agree girl.. agree with what you have written. even I had come to this conclusion tht everyone is selfish and mean, after meeting a set of cheap people.. but when some few frnds do something good or talk to me sweetly, I realize that not everyone’s like that 🙂 good post

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    Psych Babbler
    November 16, 2009 at 10:48 am

    @ Caitlyn: I do hope it does happen. It’s just that kids nowadays seem so much more nastier that I am cynical. I do admit I have a biased view given that I tend to see the ‘problem’ kids.

    @ G: Given that I’m the most cynical person I know, I would say that I doubt one person among millions would be able to make a diff…but there’s hope that they may influence at least some others…

    @ Soin: Who said narcissism was good? When did thinking only about yourself without having any consideration whatsoever about others’ feelings become a good thing? There is a difference between looking out for oneself and narcissism. I will admit I am cynical though.

    @ BM: Yep…sigh.

    @ PNA: I’d like to believe you! 🙂 I guess I am seeing mainly the negative because the good kids don’t get referred to me! :S

    @ Elegant Chic: Welcome! This reminds me of a line from Shawshank redemption that was something like that…about how hope kept him going…and life without hope was not life…

    @ Quixotic: Actually, in my experience so far, it’s always been the girls that have been nasty. And that’s why, those few examples of goodness were a breath of fresh air for me because it showed that not all girls are nasty bitches.

    @ Matt: I’m being too disillusioned, aren’t I? But you do make a point…

    @ A Guyandagirl: Thanks for sharing that…it was lovely.

    @ Dagadu: Thanks! It doesn’t help that I’m very cynical to start off with and seeing teenagers like this makes me more cynical by the day…

    @ Avada: Thanks 🙂 I shouldn’t generalise…

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    November 16, 2009 at 1:04 pm

    hey but don’t you think since it is part of your job; you should take it just as part of the job than really getting affected by it ? I mean if I start getting affected by office politics; it is my loss. Not that office politics is going to seize. just a thought.

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