I am not a girly-girl. Or a womanly-woman, if you prefer.
Never have been. And sometimes that can be so hard.
Especially when for some reason, majority of your friends are girls…and that too extremely feminine ones. Even the lesbians I am friends with seem to be a lot girlier than me (though they are not as feminine as the others). I will explain: for instance, they all love shopping, are very fashion conscious, not fond of watching sport on telly, not fond of discussing sport, don’t drink beer (this one is only my girlfriends here) and the ones that do drink beer here, prefer the low-carb stuff. Another example would be this weekend when we all went to one of our friend’s wedding. Turned out my friend wore 2 wedding gowns. I for one, hadn’t noticed. I don’t pay attention to stuff like that. For me, she wore a white gown that was very long. But the rest of the group noticed it…they were able to notice the difference and then there was the discussion about how beautiful the dress was and what each one liked about the dress. Everyone at the table joined in except myself and one friend’s husband (the only guy at the table!) The two of us felt left out of that bit of conversation. So hopefully, you get the drift now…
For someone who has always been a tomboy, I have very few guy friends. Back home I have a couple of guy friends and about the same number here as well. And I really enjoy hanging out with just the guys. They are not completely blokey-blokes but intelligent guys that can have conversation on a variety of topics (including psychology). But they are guys I can have a beer with at a sports bar without worrying about how many carbs I’m consuming in that schooner of Tooheys New! In fact, the last time my guy friend and I went out to the local pub, I suggested the sports bar section because they were showing highlights of the cricket and he told me that I am probably the only girl he has ever known to insist on sitting in the sports bar!
Anyway, the whole experience this weekend made me think about this a whole lot more. About how I really would like to have some more guy friends. Not just to talk about sport. But a blend of sport and humour and of course, serious stuff would be great. It doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate and love my girl friends. But sometimes, I feel like an outcast when I don’t know about the latest make-up or fashion trends, or when I back out of clothes & shoe shopping trips or because I haven’t watched ‘Sex and the city’.
Anyone else ever experience something like this? Guys and girls? Or is it just me?
Until next time,