I read last week about this 18 year old boy, Tyler Clementi in the US committing suicide last week after a sex video featuring him without his permission was broadcast online. Tyler’s roommate at uni, Dharun Ravi and a friend, Molly Wei managed to stream a live video via their webcam of Tyler with another male. He did realise that he was spied upon eventually and made the sad decision of ending his life. Both the bullies have been charged with invasion of privacy although there are calls for manslaughter charges as well as hate-crime charges. Tyler jumped off a bridge and ended his life.
I feel for Tyler. And I fail to comprehend what kind of people think it’s actually funny to broadcast someone’s private affairs to the rest of the world. You have got to be really really sick in the head. It’s not just a prank gone wrong. It was planned and executed. To embarrass the young man. And possibly take a cheap shot at his sexual orientation. Personally, I think the bullies do deserve charges of manslaughter or at least something about abetting a suicide. The kid was 18! He had his entire life ahead of him. And just because his roommate didn’t agree with his sexual orientation doesn’t give anyone the right to demean him.
Bullying of any form can be horrible. Bullying doesn’t just involve calling someone names once or beating someone up once. It is constant. It occurs day in and day out. Once upon a time bullying was probably only at school. A child felt safe upon going home. Unfortunately, times have changed. With the internet and cyberspace, home isn’t a safe environment any longer. Unless one is a hermit. Kids and teens get bullied online — on facebook, bebo, twitter or even through blogs. Lewd pictures get posted online. Lewd or embarrassing videos are posted on youtube. Someone’s mobile number can be broadcast with the message saying “call me, I give free blow jobs” [I had a client who this last thing was done to] It’s insane. And it really makes you question whether anyone under 21 should be allowed to even use technology when they don’t have the capacity to use their prefrontal cortex!!! Bullying has reached new heights these days with the growth in technology. And I for one am glad I am not a school-going student in this day and age!
I do hope the case results in convictions of some form. And time in gaol. Only then are people going to learn that you cannot get away with prejudicial acts of bullying. It will set a precedent for any other cases in future. And Tyler’s death will not have been in vain.
Until next time,