I have been watching FRIENDS (again!) Just enjoying the DVDs I have and laughing all over again. I just finished watching the episode where Rachel and Ross break up (the first time). And it got me thinking. About what led to them having to go “on a break”.
For those who haven’t seen it, basically, Rachel gets a job in the fashion industry through the help of some guy Mark and Ross starts to get jealous. And then with Rachel spending more and more time at work (actually working), Ross starts getting frustrated and jealous and feels like he doesn’t have a girlfriend because she spends so much time at work. He gets really annoyed when she has to work over time on their first year anniversary and ends up at her work place with the plans they had for their anniversary night and making a mess of things. When they later argue at home, Ross tells her it’s “just a job” and eventually they take a break from the relationship on Rachel’s insistence.
Now, the point here was not for me to tell you all about FRIENDS. But when I saw this episode this time around, there were other things that stood out for me. Like how possessive Ross is. And that how Rachel’s job doesn’t seem to matter as much as his does (especially because when they first start going out, he has to work late on one occassion ruining their date). And that he needs to call her and be with her at all times to feel like he has a girlfriend. And it also reminded me of some people I work with and have worked with in the past. Where they would call their partners at least three or four times a day from work or vice versa! And talking about stuff like “Whatcha doin?”
And I find myself thinking… why???
Is it because people are so insecure about the relationship that they feel the need to call their partners every few hours?
Or is something stupid like they just want to brag about their relationship? (Yes, someone at work currently does that…each time her partner calls or she calls her partner is an opportunity for her to brag about the relationship and their upcoming holiday where they are flying business class)
Is your partner calling you at work or coming over to work supposed to be romantic? Or does it in some weird way mean they love you so much more??
I would hate it if my partner called me every single day at work. After all, my work place is my place. (I could so relate to Rachel’s speech about liking not having Ross in that part of her life). It’s where I am a professional. Where I am a psychologist. And I don’t particularly like mixing personal with professional. My partner calling me every day at work or god forbid, visiting me at work, would drive me nuts!!! It would feel like he was invading a part of my life and smothering me. I don’t think I would handle it too well and the end result would probably be like Rachel and Ross. Without getting back together.
What about all of you out there?
Do you or have you in the past called your partner every day from work? Or had them call you every day? [I’m not thinking about having to call them for something urgent once in a while.] If you do, please explain the reasons if you don’t mind.
Or are you more like me where you like your space?
Until next time,