Where am I coming from with all this?
***Let me warn you now — RANT ALERT***
Well, about a month or two ago I heard about the government here thinking of beginning to fine mates of drink drivers for letting them drive. More recently, on a Sunday night interview show with a disgraced AFL player and his estranged wife, I heard the wife blame the AFL and media saying they needed to take some of the resposibility for his behaviour given that they let him play and continued to idolise him despite his drunken behaviours and stupidity off field. Even more recently, the federal government has decided to provide money to families if children stay on at school as opposed to dropping out.
So again, when you read all of the above, don’t you wonder — what has happened to individual responsibility???
A person who chooses to drink and drive needs to take responsibility. Yes, they are intoxicated. But whose choice was it to get drunk in the first place? And why does someone else have to be penalised if you are an idiot???
The AFL player needs to take responsibility for his actions. [I’m given to understand that he does]. Yes, maybe the AFL idolised him as did the media. But at the end of the day, they do not tell him how to act. If he is going to pee in public like a drunken idiot, it’s his responsibility.
While I understand low income families may find it difficult to make ends meet, here in Australia we have a public education system. One that is free. If an adolescent chooses to not go to school, it is their responsibility. They don’t need to be bribed to be forced to stay at school. And in any case, there are probably a lot of them who are better off going to work or starting a trade than staying in school with learning problems and the like.
I’m sure you have all heard in the past in the US of people suing coffee companies because they spilled hot coffee over themselves and realised it burns. Or laptop companies for placing laptops on their laps and getting burnt. And this has reached a point of ridiculous proportions where if you buy a bag of peanuts now, it comes with a warning that it “may contain traces of nuts”. See here for proof!
In the work place I have noticed time and again the way in which the system tries to hold everyone responsible for an individual’s actions. How? Well, for instance, if a client with mental health commits suicide, a scapegoat is hunted down. However, no one forced an individual to commit suicide? They took responsibility for their own actions however unhelpful they may have been. When parents neglect or abuse their kids to the point of significant harm to the child, everyone looks at what services to blame. But again, aren’t the parents responsible for it? Whether they are on drugs or alcohol or just too exhausted to look after several kids, it still doesn’t mean they get to shirk off responsibility and everyone tries to justify how things could have been better if there was a “better system in place”.
I think it’s about time we all start taking resposibility for our own actions. It’s different if you are suffering from a psychotic illness. The majority of us do not. And hence, drugs, alcohol, exhaustion, anxiety, depression etc do not absolve us from the consequences our actions may have.
Somewhere along the line it became possible for the individual to blame everyone else for his or her actions.
The fact of the matter is there is no one holding a gun to your head. It is your brain. And your body. You and only you can control it. Despite all the drugs and alcohol.
So start taking responsibility now for what you say and do.
And hopefully, the system realises the same and stops pandering to everyone’s needs.
Until next time,