I had a final session with a client today. Given that it was the last session, we went through some of the stuff discussed in therapy as well as talked about their plans for the future. The doctor then said he wanted to play devil’s advocate and mentioned a possible scenario coming up in the future which involves a number of stressors, some out of the client’s control.
How would they deal with it?
My client then reflected back something I’d told them a long time ago. That there are things in life beyond our control. And we can spend time worrying about it or choose to to realise that it’s out of control and therefore, we can just continue to living our life in the best possible way by focusing on the present and deal with things when they occur. And they said they were recently able to do that while awaiting exam results.
It made me smile.
Not just because they actually remember everything I said.
But more so because I realised I had not been taking my own advice this past week when dealing with a stressful situation that I had limited control over. I let the stress consume me. I let it impact on my sleep and appetite and my ability to concentrate on work. I let it rule.
Despite the situation still existing, I think it’s time to take my own advice.
My clients tend to think I help them.
Little do some of them know how much they help me.
Until next time,