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How much disclosure is too much

It’s a question I’ve been pondering over every now and then in the past few weeks. Especially since I started those dating posts. I know I write under a pseudonym. But at the same time, I’ve been vain enough to brag about the blog to people I know in real life over the past few years. And they do read it. Including my mum.

With the onset of the new year, I had also changed my profile picture. A picture I thought had been properly pixellated. Until a friend in real life mentioned you could still tell it was me. I finally changed it even more 2 weeks ago. Because I think I’d still prefer to remain a bit anonymous.

However, despite the pseudonym and the fuzzy picture, I wonder: am I disclosing too much on here?

This started off as a personal blog. A way to chronicle my life and all that touches it. It was supposed to be a journal where I could pour out my happy moments, my stressful moments, my battles with my anxiety and low moods as well as my strong opinions on issues I’m passionate about. I think though, with a personal blog, the person behind the blog can definitely come across. And I find that I rarely hold back and what you get here is pretty much me. Without a mask.

But it also scares me sometimes.

It scares me that there are people out there who know intimate details about my personality. My quirks. My neuroses. My flaws. Things which we take months to share with another individual in real life. While I have done my best to remain anonymous in other ways, I still sometimes wonder whether I’m being smart by putting so much out there about myself. My friend at work asked me during the time I was reminiscing about the Writer whether I had told him I blog. Uh…no. No way is more like it. Again, it’s an indication of just how much I put out there that I wouldn’t want a potential partner to see until maybe at least a few weeks in. And even that, I’m not sure. My ex knew I blogged but never really understood it or read it. He knew all my craziness though. So that’s a different story.

Anyway, I just wanted to put it out there.

If you have a personal blog, do you ever go through this?

Despite not putting up personal photos, do you still feel like there is a lot of you just put out there? I like reading personal blogs and getting to ‘know’ people. But sometimes…just sometimes…do you ever wonder about all of this?

Just thinking out loud.

As I tend to.

Hope everyone had a good weekend!

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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    Swaram
    February 18, 2013 at 2:46 am

    Hmmm not much I think. I do add friends from here on FB, but only when I know them well and can connect with them. That’s where I am more personal and so am more careful with who is on my list. Here am okay with whatever I am giving out … not much of my whereabouts or such things anyway 🙂

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    Swaram
    February 18, 2013 at 2:46 am

    Hmmm not much I think. I do add friends from here on FB, but only when I know them well and can connect with them. That’s where I am more personal and so am more careful with who is on my list. Here am okay with whatever I am giving out … not much of my whereabouts or such things anyway 🙂

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    Tuhina Mahan
    February 18, 2013 at 3:48 am

    I know exactly what you mean PB. I struggle with it all the time. My ex reads my blog and used to brag about it to everyone she knew (no, I didn’t know them) which was kind of annoying for me. I only let my close friends know about my blog. I feel very awkward when people quote my blog to me or ask about something I wrote. I am a very compartmentalized person. I hate it when a personal place gets invaded by acquaintances whom I don’t even like. Aarrghh…

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    Tuhina Mahan
    February 18, 2013 at 3:48 am

    I know exactly what you mean PB. I struggle with it all the time. My ex reads my blog and used to brag about it to everyone she knew (no, I didn’t know them) which was kind of annoying for me. I only let my close friends know about my blog. I feel very awkward when people quote my blog to me or ask about something I wrote. I am a very compartmentalized person. I hate it when a personal place gets invaded by acquaintances whom I don’t even like. Aarrghh…

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    Little Fingers
    February 18, 2013 at 4:37 am

    I can so related t myself PB, I give way too much info on my blog including my real face, but I want to keep my coworker-clients away from my blog because I will lose the freedom to express my day and stress if I have those visitors..

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    Little Fingers
    February 18, 2013 at 4:37 am

    I can so related t myself PB, I give way too much info on my blog including my real face, but I want to keep my coworker-clients away from my blog because I will lose the freedom to express my day and stress if I have those visitors..

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    A
    February 18, 2013 at 9:39 am

    Definitely a relate-able thought. How much is exactly too much? For some it can be therapeutic and for some it’s just a way of saying – hey world this is what I think, what about you? Maybe keeping blogging and other social media activities is the answer? Who knows…

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    A
    February 18, 2013 at 9:39 am

    Definitely a relate-able thought. How much is exactly too much? For some it can be therapeutic and for some it’s just a way of saying – hey world this is what I think, what about you? Maybe keeping blogging and other social media activities is the answer? Who knows…

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    NS
    February 18, 2013 at 2:06 pm

    I have gone through this n number of times. I think having a pseudonym is the best thing to do. And share the link with some trusted friends. I had an embarassing moment when my then-fiance-now-husband’s friend searched for my blog by typing my name on Google and she read it.. he read it… because I had registered on some blog networks.. Sheesh. I got the personal blog removed immediately from that blogging network.

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    NS
    February 18, 2013 at 2:06 pm

    I have gone through this n number of times. I think having a pseudonym is the best thing to do. And share the link with some trusted friends. I had an embarassing moment when my then-fiance-now-husband’s friend searched for my blog by typing my name on Google and she read it.. he read it… because I had registered on some blog networks.. Sheesh. I got the personal blog removed immediately from that blogging network.

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    R's Mom
    February 18, 2013 at 2:56 pm

    When I started blogging I was not very careful, but now a days, I am definitely careful about what I write and how much info I give away..

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    R's Mom
    February 18, 2013 at 2:56 pm

    When I started blogging I was not very careful, but now a days, I am definitely careful about what I write and how much info I give away..

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    Smita
    February 18, 2013 at 4:32 pm

    Few days back I wrote a post on how a stranger recognised me and it was Exhilarating yet daunting. She knows what I like, My sons name, what I dislike, what I cook etc etc but then when I disclosed these things I made a choice. And to be honest I have nothing against complete strangers knowing about me, what worries me more is that now few of my relatives follow my blog (a very proud hubby shared my blogadda inetrview and there has been no looking back since then) and they know too many things about me.
    But if given a chance to go back and change how I blog I don’t think I will change my style 🙂

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    Smita
    February 18, 2013 at 4:32 pm

    Few days back I wrote a post on how a stranger recognised me and it was Exhilarating yet daunting. She knows what I like, My sons name, what I dislike, what I cook etc etc but then when I disclosed these things I made a choice. And to be honest I have nothing against complete strangers knowing about me, what worries me more is that now few of my relatives follow my blog (a very proud hubby shared my blogadda inetrview and there has been no looking back since then) and they know too many things about me.
    But if given a chance to go back and change how I blog I don’t think I will change my style 🙂

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    Chicky a.k.a. Kaddu
    February 19, 2013 at 12:09 am

    I know what u mean, PB. Gone through this phase myself. Eventually, I figured I couldn’t possibly remain an anonymous blogger for long, especially since I was organizing blogger meets in Delhi and adding bloggers in my FB friend list! I have one single account on FB for all school friends, farmville players, blog buddies, family members etc. So the boundaries were definitely going to get blurred. My school pals will end up reading my blog posts, and my blog buddies will get to know the real me. Therefore, I decided to limit what I share on my blog about my personal life.

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    Chicky a.k.a. Kaddu
    February 19, 2013 at 12:09 am

    I know what u mean, PB. Gone through this phase myself. Eventually, I figured I couldn’t possibly remain an anonymous blogger for long, especially since I was organizing blogger meets in Delhi and adding bloggers in my FB friend list! I have one single account on FB for all school friends, farmville players, blog buddies, family members etc. So the boundaries were definitely going to get blurred. My school pals will end up reading my blog posts, and my blog buddies will get to know the real me. Therefore, I decided to limit what I share on my blog about my personal life.

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    Titaxy
    February 19, 2013 at 10:34 am

    I’ve thought through this so many times. And nothing really came out of any of those thought sessions 😛

    I blog under a pseudonym and I make sure I don’t mention the blog to people in my life. My family doesn’t know except the partner. Only one or two of my friends know about the blog. and I like it this way; I don’t know why. 🙂

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    Titaxy
    February 19, 2013 at 10:34 am

    I’ve thought through this so many times. And nothing really came out of any of those thought sessions 😛

    I blog under a pseudonym and I make sure I don’t mention the blog to people in my life. My family doesn’t know except the partner. Only one or two of my friends know about the blog. and I like it this way; I don’t know why. 🙂

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    Avada Kedavra
    February 20, 2013 at 9:49 am

    I dont like sharing personal details with people who are not close. I have shared my blog link with very few real life friends. That was the reason I started blogging under a pseudo name. Except my parents, husband and few very good friends, rest have no idea that I blog 🙂

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    Avada Kedavra
    February 20, 2013 at 9:49 am

    I dont like sharing personal details with people who are not close. I have shared my blog link with very few real life friends. That was the reason I started blogging under a pseudo name. Except my parents, husband and few very good friends, rest have no idea that I blog 🙂

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