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G is for Genuine #atozchallenge

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Being genuine is one of the hardest things to do these days. In a society where we try to fit in, where we try to conform, sometimes, being genuine might involve being different. And being different can lead to non-acceptance.

When I was younger, there were times when I would conform to others’ expectations. I occasionally said or did things I thought were expected of me. But in other ways, I was stubborn enough to stick to my guns. To be true to myself. Growing older, I’ve become more and more true to myself. I think my work has helped me be more genuine. You see, adolescents are great to work with. They have a very good bullshit monitor. They know when you are faking it. And consequently, when with my adolescent clients, I am never faking it. I am genuine to a fault, I am upfront about what I do and don’t know. And I self-disclose where appropriate about my past anxieties as a teenager. I think some of them like me better for that. For being real. And therefore connect with me. Sure, I will not connect with all. Because I am only human.

I have tried to take that genuineness which my clients, my close friends and family see, to others. I have kept it real. Sure, it has meant that at times people might reject me for my views. But as long as I know I am being true to myself, it doesn’t bother me any more. Not like it used to as a teenager. I also realise that living life being genuine is so much easier. After all, when you fake it to conform with different groups, there is the pressure of trying to remember who you were trying to be! And that is bloody hard!

Living life being genuine means I stress less around other people. I am not bothered by the need to conform to anyone or anything. I am happy within myself. And that makes life worth living.

How genuine can you be? Or do  you find the need to conform?

Do share!

***This post is part of the April A to Z Challenge and the Ultimate Blog Challenge. You can find my other posts here***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Ananya Kiran
    April 8, 2014 at 7:18 am

    Another genuine post from a genuine person !
    Honestly there will always be a need to conform, guess you can choose Whom do you really want the conform from and Do you want it at the cost of being Untrue to yourself !
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  • Ananya Kiran
    April 8, 2014 at 7:18 am

    Another genuine post from a genuine person !
    Honestly there will always be a need to conform, guess you can choose Whom do you really want the conform from and Do you want it at the cost of being Untrue to yourself !
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  • Pinky Poinker
    April 8, 2014 at 7:58 am

    Your point about having to try to remember who you are supposed to be if you’re a chameleon is so true. An excellent message… getting older helps, and acceptance.
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  • Pinky Poinker
    April 8, 2014 at 7:58 am

    Your point about having to try to remember who you are supposed to be if you’re a chameleon is so true. An excellent message… getting older helps, and acceptance.
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  • sunila
    April 8, 2014 at 2:44 pm

    Fully with you PB 🙂 I find it hard to conform to what stuffy ppl or society at large may want and I have never been fussed by it too as its a happy thing being ME 😀
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  • sunila
    April 8, 2014 at 2:44 pm

    Fully with you PB 🙂 I find it hard to conform to what stuffy ppl or society at large may want and I have never been fussed by it too as its a happy thing being ME 😀
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  • pkdeka
    April 8, 2014 at 2:49 pm

    I can’t be ‘me’ in the present world. …. so very true thinking… hard realities… difficult life … good to read your thoughts
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  • pkdeka
    April 8, 2014 at 2:49 pm

    I can’t be ‘me’ in the present world. …. so very true thinking… hard realities… difficult life … good to read your thoughts
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  • Shalini
    April 8, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    Great post, there~~ Made me think of how I’m surrounded by chameleons 😛 😛
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  • Shalini
    April 8, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    Great post, there~~ Made me think of how I’m surrounded by chameleons 😛 😛
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  • S(t)ri
    April 8, 2014 at 3:50 pm

    Oscar Wilde quote – my most fav. one. Yet another food for the souls and mind post from you!! Excellent one PB!!

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  • S(t)ri
    April 8, 2014 at 3:50 pm

    Oscar Wilde quote – my most fav. one. Yet another food for the souls and mind post from you!! Excellent one PB!!

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  • floodproofmum
    April 8, 2014 at 4:44 pm

    Its always best to be true to yourself. I have ditched friends who were false – the genuine ones are the best, and only, ones to have 🙂

  • floodproofmum
    April 8, 2014 at 4:44 pm

    Its always best to be true to yourself. I have ditched friends who were false – the genuine ones are the best, and only, ones to have 🙂

  • Beloo Mehra
    April 8, 2014 at 5:40 pm

    I think it is such a burdensome and painful thing to be Not Genuine. Why carry all that heaviness of being someone you are not? At the same time I have learnt that what I am today will also change with time, so what may feel genuine today may not be so tomorrow, I guess that’s called growth! 🙂
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  • Beloo Mehra
    April 8, 2014 at 5:40 pm

    I think it is such a burdensome and painful thing to be Not Genuine. Why carry all that heaviness of being someone you are not? At the same time I have learnt that what I am today will also change with time, so what may feel genuine today may not be so tomorrow, I guess that’s called growth! 🙂
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  • nabanita
    April 8, 2014 at 6:00 pm

    I think it’s easy to be genuine when we don’t give in to peer pressure for acceptance…But then it’s not easy to avoid peer pressure…Another relevant post…loving your theme!
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  • nabanita
    April 8, 2014 at 6:00 pm

    I think it’s easy to be genuine when we don’t give in to peer pressure for acceptance…But then it’s not easy to avoid peer pressure…Another relevant post…loving your theme!
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  • sugandha
    April 8, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    So true! great thoughts here

  • sugandha
    April 8, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    So true! great thoughts here

  • Soumya
    April 8, 2014 at 7:41 pm

    If you can’t live as yourself, no point living!
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  • Soumya
    April 8, 2014 at 7:41 pm

    If you can’t live as yourself, no point living!
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  • Eli
    April 8, 2014 at 7:51 pm

    Yup… nodding through your post today:-) Great read with good flow:-) I found it easier to be genuine the older i got.. when others opinions dont matter so much anymore.. Just do my thing no matter what… The hard things can be in work situations – where you sometimes have to compromise.. But still be true to one self is what matters the most:-)
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  • Eli
    April 8, 2014 at 7:51 pm

    Yup… nodding through your post today:-) Great read with good flow:-) I found it easier to be genuine the older i got.. when others opinions dont matter so much anymore.. Just do my thing no matter what… The hard things can be in work situations – where you sometimes have to compromise.. But still be true to one self is what matters the most:-)
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  • Jayanta Tewari
    April 8, 2014 at 9:49 pm

    I also thought about writing on Being Genuine today but then chose a different topic aligning to my theme. Liked your post…To me being genuine always matters…
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  • Jayanta Tewari
    April 8, 2014 at 9:49 pm

    I also thought about writing on Being Genuine today but then chose a different topic aligning to my theme. Liked your post…To me being genuine always matters…
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  • Zita
    April 8, 2014 at 10:35 pm

    Oh I definitely feel the pressure to conform and do what others expect me to do! I am working on working out what it is I want for my life so that I can stop doing that!!! I also feel it is hard to be genuine all the time, I believe we change who we are because of who we are with at the time. The “me” at work is very different to the “me” when I’m with my friends to the “me” I am when I meet someone new for the first time… Sometimes there is nothing wrong with that but it can feel fake!
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  • Zita
    April 8, 2014 at 10:35 pm

    Oh I definitely feel the pressure to conform and do what others expect me to do! I am working on working out what it is I want for my life so that I can stop doing that!!! I also feel it is hard to be genuine all the time, I believe we change who we are because of who we are with at the time. The “me” at work is very different to the “me” when I’m with my friends to the “me” I am when I meet someone new for the first time… Sometimes there is nothing wrong with that but it can feel fake!
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  • Danny Simon
    April 9, 2014 at 3:13 am

    Great post!
    Acceptance is something every person desires deep inside..and the temptation to conform so that one doesn’t get rejected is often so strong that it’s not easy to resist.
    But love the quote again, be yourself because everyone else is taken. Too many times, we end up becoming somebody else so that we fit into society.
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  • Danny Simon
    April 9, 2014 at 3:13 am

    Great post!
    Acceptance is something every person desires deep inside..and the temptation to conform so that one doesn’t get rejected is often so strong that it’s not easy to resist.
    But love the quote again, be yourself because everyone else is taken. Too many times, we end up becoming somebody else so that we fit into society.
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  • Sitara Nair
    April 9, 2014 at 5:12 am

    Every single being around you wants you to conform according to his likes n dislikes….
    Its your prerogative that decides
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  • Sitara Nair
    April 9, 2014 at 5:12 am

    Every single being around you wants you to conform according to his likes n dislikes….
    Its your prerogative that decides
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  • Laurel Regan
    April 9, 2014 at 7:33 am

    I can’t say I’ve ever been one to conform – always had a rebellious streak! Being genuine is so important when it comes to relationships of all kinds.
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  • Laurel Regan
    April 9, 2014 at 7:33 am

    I can’t say I’ve ever been one to conform – always had a rebellious streak! Being genuine is so important when it comes to relationships of all kinds.
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  • Shilpa Garg
    April 9, 2014 at 11:14 pm

    I believe, not only adolescents but everybody is able to identify a fake person, sooner or later and a relationship with such a person will not last for long! I so agree, with your picture quote!! Being genuine is what I believe in too!
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  • Shilpa Garg
    April 9, 2014 at 11:14 pm

    I believe, not only adolescents but everybody is able to identify a fake person, sooner or later and a relationship with such a person will not last for long! I so agree, with your picture quote!! Being genuine is what I believe in too!
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  • Nibha
    April 12, 2014 at 8:06 pm

    Being genuine is never easy.. I try hard to be but still have to act accordingly at times..
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  • Nibha
    April 12, 2014 at 8:06 pm

    Being genuine is never easy.. I try hard to be but still have to act accordingly at times..
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  • Richa Singh
    April 19, 2014 at 2:56 am

    That quote about everybody else never seems to not bring a smile to me, it is sooo true.. no?
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  • Richa Singh
    April 19, 2014 at 2:56 am

    That quote about everybody else never seems to not bring a smile to me, it is sooo true.. no?
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