Being genuine is one of the hardest things to do these days. In a society where we try to fit in, where we try to conform, sometimes, being genuine might involve being different. And being different can lead to non-acceptance.
When I was younger, there were times when I would conform to others’ expectations. I occasionally said or did things I thought were expected of me. But in other ways, I was stubborn enough to stick to my guns. To be true to myself. Growing older, I’ve become more and more true to myself. I think my work has helped me be more genuine. You see, adolescents are great to work with. They have a very good bullshit monitor. They know when you are faking it. And consequently, when with my adolescent clients, I am never faking it. I am genuine to a fault, I am upfront about what I do and don’t know. And I self-disclose where appropriate about my past anxieties as a teenager. I think some of them like me better for that. For being real. And therefore connect with me. Sure, I will not connect with all. Because I am only human.
I have tried to take that genuineness which my clients, my close friends and family see, to others. I have kept it real. Sure, it has meant that at times people might reject me for my views. But as long as I know I am being true to myself, it doesn’t bother me any more. Not like it used to as a teenager. I also realise that living life being genuine is so much easier. After all, when you fake it to conform with different groups, there is the pressure of trying to remember who you were trying to be! And that is bloody hard!
Living life being genuine means I stress less around other people. I am not bothered by the need to conform to anyone or anything. I am happy within myself. And that makes life worth living.
How genuine can you be? Or do you find the need to conform?
Until next time,