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You know you are a first born child

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Are you a first born child? Did you have to grow up listening to pearls of wisdom that other first-born kids have to put up with? And did you experience the following discrimination things like other older siblings? Wondering what the hell I’m on about? Read the following to see if you fit the ‘first-born’ category.

The giver: You know you are a first-born if you grew up learning to “give in” to your younger siblings. Every. Single. Time. You probably got sick of the line ‘Oh just give it to {insert sibling name} — they are much younger than you.’ You know what? They are always going to be younger!

The tag-along: You were asked to take your younger sibling with you. Including a trip when you finished graduating uni! It didn’t matter that when you were their age, you probably would not have been allowed to do the very same thing!

The one-up on you: You were appalled that they got to do things way before you were allowed to do them. For instance, you might have first gone to the movies at 11 but they were allowed at 7. Because of course, they couldn’t be left at home when you went!

The blame-game: You were asked to mind your language and be a good role model because your sibling ‘looks up to you’. And if they swore or did anything naughty, you got yelled at because they learnt it from you.

The role-model: You were told that your sibling only followed you around and scribbled in your homework because they wanted to  be ‘just like you’.

The trial version: You copped more severe punishments than your sibling ever did because you were the trial version for your first-time parents. They learnt from making mistakes with you about what not to do with the next one(s).

The default responsibility: As a first-born child, you are expected to be responsible. For everything. So if anything goes wrong, you are held responsible. Lost your younger brother in the shopping mall? You’re responsible! Younger sister painted on the walls? You’re responsible! As a responsible older sibling, you should have kept an eye on the younger one and taught them better.

The dethronement: While as a first-born, you will enjoy being doted on by grandparents, it doesn’t last forever. The minute the younger ones come along, all of the above start even with the grandparents!

Fortunately, I think most of us first-borns get over the resentment after about 20 years. And the scars of childhood are either hidden or repressed. {To be perfectly fair on the whole sibling front, I promise to write about the younger siblings next week}

Are you a first born child? 

What other gems did you have to put up with while growing up? 

Do share!

This post is dedicated to my younger sister who I no longer resent! 😉 Love you, sis!

***Linking with Emily and Vanessa for Laugh Link and Jess for IBOT***

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Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Sunaynna
    September 2, 2014 at 8:33 am

    Well phew! Thank the lords you don’t resent me anymore…LOL. Jokes aside, I am sorry for all the shit you had to go through because of me. Hopefully I can make it up to you 🙂 Love ya!

  • Sunaynna
    September 2, 2014 at 8:33 am

    Well phew! Thank the lords you don’t resent me anymore…LOL. Jokes aside, I am sorry for all the shit you had to go through because of me. Hopefully I can make it up to you 🙂 Love ya!

  • Fiona
    September 2, 2014 at 9:47 am

    The getting certain privileges at x age, then having your sister two years younger get those same privileges a few months later!!
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  • Fiona
    September 2, 2014 at 9:47 am

    The getting certain privileges at x age, then having your sister two years younger get those same privileges a few months later!!
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  • Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    September 2, 2014 at 10:35 am

    Oh you’ve made me feel a bit bad because I do lots of this to my first born – but thanks for the reality check – mental note to self to say and do less of the above, thanks for linking xx
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  • Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    September 2, 2014 at 10:35 am

    Oh you’ve made me feel a bit bad because I do lots of this to my first born – but thanks for the reality check – mental note to self to say and do less of the above, thanks for linking xx
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  • Vanisha @ A Life Un-Styled
    September 2, 2014 at 10:53 am

    I chuckled while reading this. I’m a first born too, and that trial version is no joke! There’s a 10 year age difference between my youngest sibling and I, sometimes even as a 28 year old I want to throw the world’s biggest tantrum about what the younger ones get away with! Thanks for making my day Sanch 🙂
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  • Vanisha @ A Life Un-Styled
    September 2, 2014 at 10:53 am

    I chuckled while reading this. I’m a first born too, and that trial version is no joke! There’s a 10 year age difference between my youngest sibling and I, sometimes even as a 28 year old I want to throw the world’s biggest tantrum about what the younger ones get away with! Thanks for making my day Sanch 🙂
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    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      September 4, 2014 at 4:49 pm

      Oh wow — 10 year age gap! I thought 5 was hard to deal with! Well, we all made pretty good trial versions 😉 Glad to make you laugh…

  • R's Mom
    September 2, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    hahahahah Super cute this one is 🙂 I should send it to my Anna…he will love reading it and will keep nodding his head to EVERYTHING!

  • R's Mom
    September 2, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    hahahahah Super cute this one is 🙂 I should send it to my Anna…he will love reading it and will keep nodding his head to EVERYTHING!

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      September 4, 2014 at 8:27 pm

      Haha…I’m sure your brother will identify! 😀 Like I said on your post, I’ll do your side too 😉

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  • Janine
    September 2, 2014 at 5:21 pm

    Haha so true. I agree with them ALL!

    I probably have loads of stuff to add but nothing jumps to mind at the moment!
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  • Janine
    September 2, 2014 at 5:21 pm

    Haha so true. I agree with them ALL!

    I probably have loads of stuff to add but nothing jumps to mind at the moment!
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    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      September 4, 2014 at 8:57 pm

      I know what you mean Janine — I could have sworn there was more but couldn’t remember them! I’m sure it’ll come back to us.

  • Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    September 2, 2014 at 6:28 pm

    Totally true, every. single. point.
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  • Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    September 2, 2014 at 6:28 pm

    Totally true, every. single. point.
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  • Scribby
    September 2, 2014 at 7:05 pm

    hahaha loved the Trial Version point 🙂 I can relate to your sentiments dearie, I’m a first born too 🙂 🙂
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  • Scribby
    September 2, 2014 at 7:05 pm

    hahaha loved the Trial Version point 🙂 I can relate to your sentiments dearie, I’m a first born too 🙂 🙂
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  • Hugzilla
    September 3, 2014 at 9:00 am

    LOLOLOLOLOLOL! This is funny. I was the younger sibling. Ner ner ner ner ner!!!

  • Hugzilla
    September 3, 2014 at 9:00 am

    LOLOLOLOLOLOL! This is funny. I was the younger sibling. Ner ner ner ner ner!!!

  • Ananya Tales
    September 3, 2014 at 11:40 am

    Hey Nice post !
    I am the first born and also the last born 🙂
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  • Ananya Tales
    September 3, 2014 at 11:40 am

    Hey Nice post !
    I am the first born and also the last born 🙂
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  • Kinmin
    September 3, 2014 at 1:05 pm

    This is hilarious and so cute, reminds me of my oldest sister! 🙂 I should do a post on being the youngest sibling! 🙂
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  • Kinmin
    September 3, 2014 at 1:05 pm

    This is hilarious and so cute, reminds me of my oldest sister! 🙂 I should do a post on being the youngest sibling! 🙂
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      September 4, 2014 at 9:10 pm

      Would love to read your post on being the youngest Kinmin! And thanks for sharing it on your blog… 🙂

  • Tracy
    September 3, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    I’m the oldest in my family, one of my SIL’s is also the oldest in her family – there are two of us. My MIL was an expert on birth order and could peg anyone she met within 2 minutes with 99% accuracy. In Dh’s family I am one of 5 oldest’s. My MIL had a LOT of us to observe and comment upon!

    I discovered that oldest’s are:
    bossy
    organised
    take over…er…help fix things or sort things out

    I had two brothers so a lot of the comments from this blog post didn’t really resonate for me. They didn’t want to be doing stuff with me, although I do remember Dad saying “Wait for poor little Wait-For-Me” of my youngest brother from time to time. I don’t really remember the context though. And I left home and married at 19…I have no idea what my youngest brother was allowed do to at what age through his teen years. He was five years younger.
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  • Tracy
    September 3, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    I’m the oldest in my family, one of my SIL’s is also the oldest in her family – there are two of us. My MIL was an expert on birth order and could peg anyone she met within 2 minutes with 99% accuracy. In Dh’s family I am one of 5 oldest’s. My MIL had a LOT of us to observe and comment upon!

    I discovered that oldest’s are:
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    I had two brothers so a lot of the comments from this blog post didn’t really resonate for me. They didn’t want to be doing stuff with me, although I do remember Dad saying “Wait for poor little Wait-For-Me” of my youngest brother from time to time. I don’t really remember the context though. And I left home and married at 19…I have no idea what my youngest brother was allowed do to at what age through his teen years. He was five years younger.
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    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      September 4, 2014 at 9:34 pm

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Tracy…I’m sure birth order and gender would play a part too. My sister is 5 years younger than me and I think that’s what made it so much harder to take that she was given some privileges soon after I was! 😀

  • Tegan
    September 3, 2014 at 2:27 pm

    I’m the eldest too and can relate to a few of these things. There is 11 years between my brother and I hate that he doesn’t have any chores while I did!
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  • Tegan
    September 3, 2014 at 2:27 pm

    I’m the eldest too and can relate to a few of these things. There is 11 years between my brother and I hate that he doesn’t have any chores while I did!
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  • Kimberley
    September 3, 2014 at 4:02 pm

    I am a first born child and always heard that I’m the “bossy” one. I’m thinking that would probably be true, though, whether I was a first born or a middle or the baby of the family! Kx
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  • Kimberley
    September 3, 2014 at 4:02 pm

    I am a first born child and always heard that I’m the “bossy” one. I’m thinking that would probably be true, though, whether I was a first born or a middle or the baby of the family! Kx
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    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      September 4, 2014 at 9:37 pm

      Oh yeah, I got bossy too after a while. Wonder whether it comes from all the responsibility we are given… 🙂

  • John Holton
    September 4, 2014 at 5:24 am

    I was the oldest son of a single mother (Dad died when I was 11), so I was expected to live the dreams that she had but never lived because “girls didn’t do that.” And all of the above.
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    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      September 4, 2014 at 9:46 pm

      You’ve got a point there about the eldest needing to live their parents’ unfulfilled dreams at times. Thanks for sharing John

  • John Holton
    September 4, 2014 at 5:24 am

    I was the oldest son of a single mother (Dad died when I was 11), so I was expected to live the dreams that she had but never lived because “girls didn’t do that.” And all of the above.
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  • Amrita
    September 4, 2014 at 6:06 pm

    Great post! One I could totally identify with being the first child.
    In fact I have had long discussions with friends about the ‘default responsibility’ issue! The non first borns among them didn’t understand 🙂

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      September 4, 2014 at 9:47 pm

      Haha…another member of the first-born club. 🙂 Younger ones just don’t get it, do they? 😛

  • Sunila Vig
    September 4, 2014 at 10:41 pm

    Good post Sanch 🙂 I,m an only child so I guess I,ve seen the pros n cons of being the oldest, youngest n the middle child, but I still miss having siblings 🙂

  • Rajlakshmi
    September 4, 2014 at 11:24 pm

    hahaha I could so relate to the trial point, yeah seems my parents did all the parenting experiments with me. I am a first born and I was a total bully. Had a hard time getting my sister off my back… she would follow me all around. 🙂 But guess first borns always mature first and are more responsible. I am the agony aunt and the still the constant victim of their emotional blackmails 😛 They can make me buy anything for them.
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  • Shailaja V
    September 5, 2014 at 2:39 am

    Interestingly, I am a first-born, but I was always the docile kind even then. That plus my parents never compared and never said to give in to the little one 🙂 I think I did it anyway 😉
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  • Nibha
    September 5, 2014 at 2:44 am

    I found myself nodding my head at all those points! Absolutely true they are! 😀 😛
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  • nabanita
    September 5, 2014 at 3:45 am

    I’m the first born and all I can do is nod my head at some of the points 😀 well actually most of them
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  • Avada Kedavra
    September 5, 2014 at 5:32 am

    I am an only child so could not relate to the post. But had fun reading it. 🙂
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