Life isn’t easy. It isn’t even fair most of the time. Yet, most of us continue day after day. We wake up, we put one foot in front of the other, we go to work or school, we socialise, we do our chores. We get on. Most of the mundane things can be done on autopilot. But what happens when things get tough? What happens when the universe throws a spanner in the works?
For some of us, tough times are hard to manage and we can crumble. We can avoid. We can give up. Failed a test? Don’t bother trying. Lost a job? May as well go on the dole. Been hurt in a relationship again? Don’t put yourself out there anymore. Setting up a business too risky? Don’t bother. And while the avoidance of the fear and discomfort may work for a while, chances are, in the long run the individual will still be unhappy. Still be fearful.
On the other hand, there are a few individuals who persevere. They are the ones who, in spite of all the rocks thrown at them will still plough through. Failed a test? Will keep trying hard until I pass one. Lost a job? Work my arse off to find another. Been hurt in a relationship again? Take time to heal and get back out there. Setting up a business too risky? Take that risk and see what happens.
Do the latter group not feel anxious, not experience hurt or not feel sad? Of course not! They are human too. The difference is, they will feel all these emotions, feel the discomfort and do things anyway! What they have, is grit. What they are, is courageous. What they will experience, will be life-changing.
Most people have a problem experiencing discomfort. Society seems to teach us we need to feel good at all times. All you need to do is watch ads for ten minutes and you’ll know that you deserve the best and you don’t deserve to work for it. Sadly, reality is quite different. You need to work for what you want. And sometimes, the work may not be comfortable. It may be scary. It may be nerve-wracking. But as long as you persist, as long as you ride the discomfort and give it your all, you will get there in the end. Or at least, you will learn something from it.
Life isn’t about succeeding at everything. It’s about trying, not giving up, and learning from things. It’s about growing from the most difficult of circumstances.
That’s what makes it so worth while.
Do you tend to give up easily? Or can you handle discomfort and keep trying?
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Prompts for this week:
1. Create a poem, short story, or journal entry about a conversation you’ve overheard
2. Write about not giving up
3. Write on any of the prompts from August 2016
4. “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” ― André Gide, Autumn Leaves
5. Picture Prompt (http://everydaygyaan.com)
Our featured writer for last week was Mackenzie for her post on living rather than existing and Mithila for her post on chaos. Yes, two featured writers! Make sure you link up this week and spread the word. You could be our next featured writer!
Until next time,