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Goodbye 2016. And good riddance #FridayReflections #Yearinreview

I almost titled this post ‘Fuck you, 2016‘. Because let’s face it, it’s been pretty shitty. Even if you discount all the celebrity deaths {Snape, noooo…}, the terrorism in the world, the fear and anxiety, the election of Pauline Hanson here in Aus, the current heartbreaking state of Syria and the election of Trump, well, it was a pretty meh kinda year. But when you realise all those things have happened in the space of 12 months, well, it’s no wonder 2016 was fucked.

For me personally, 2015 was shit and I’d hoped 2016 would be better. It’s funny how currently, I’m in the same situation except with 2017. To be perfectly honest, I was ready for 2016 to end back in March. Yeah, it’s been that kinda year.

I started 2016 by choosing a word – Kind – and hoped to be kind to others but more importantly, to myself and my body. Hah! That went nowhere. Apart from kindness to others, that is. Ironically, it was probably the year I was highly self-critical and also ate crap, exercised less and gained weight. Weird that!

In January, I finished off my job in mental health that I’d been in for almost six years. I embraced my new role within a school a couple of days after my 32nd birthday. I had high hopes when I started and hoped this was the change I so badly needed.

February was a bit quieter on the blogging front as I tried hard to adjust to a new routine. Earlier starts, new responsibilities and the expectation to work a bit from home started to take its toll. Consequently, I also began to gain weight and dislike my body. I did however, find time for a sappy post on love, which sadly, as the year went on, I forgot about. I also met Ashleigh who blogs at My Meow and we enjoyed cat yoga together.

As March came along, it also became clear my mental health was still just as bad as the previous year. It also started becoming apparent that the new job was not what it seemed. I began wondering if I had a midlife crisis of sorts and even questioned my direction in life. I tried to get back into overnight hiking for the first time since early 2015 — only to almost die. And although, I didn’t die during the hike, I rolled my ankle which required physio and less exercise.

In April, I started hosting a new link up on Fridays with Corinne and I learnt how hard it is to maintain a weekly link up! Apart from that though, in life, my mood was deteriorating and I was loathing my fitness failures. I tried focussing on the little things that might make me happy but in the end, it was comparison to others that continued to pervade my mind.

By May, I was ready for 2016 to end. While I did get the chance to see the musical We Will Rock You and I did go camping for one night, I was not coping well emotionally. I missed my old self so much. Even though I tried focussing on finding joy in the ordinary, the black dog seemed to be winning. Work wasn’t getting better and if anything, I wanted to leave it there and then for reasons I can’t share here.

I got myself two more tattoos by June. Unlike my first, this time, it did hurt! However, it hasn’t stopped me from thinking of more! Mr Imperfect and I had a weekend getaway in the Blue Mountains but unfortunately, it rained the entire time and I was recovering from being sick the week before. The itch that had started in 2015 continued as I wanted to run away to the coast. I also opened up about my long-standing anxiety and continuing to feel like I am not good enough.

 

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I’d started actively looking for work around late June as I was truly unhappy in my job — initially I was contemplating going into private practice with my supervisor. But after a major emotional setback in July, I bit the bullet and applied for a job on the Central Coast. I wanted to get out of Sydney and there were no jobs going in my beloved South Coast; so I decided to broaden my search to other coastal areas. I had my interview and got a good vibe from the place. When I was on the train back, I got the call offering me the position. It was that quick! Of course, I had to keep it a secret until all the paperwork came through! I didn’t blog about the setback itself but I did wonder why I don’t say things straight away. I was pretty proud of a couple of posts that month on what to say and what not to say to someone with depression. This was also inspired by my setback!

Work got shittier in August but I had the hope of leaving to get me through it. I wrote about how I can’t contemplate what else I could do apart from being a psychologist. I did have some fun on being able to meet one of my favourite authors – Liane Moriarty! And by the end of the month, I got my paperwork to start my new job which meant, I could officially resign!

By September, I began wrapping things up at work. I also looked for places up the coast and tried to sort it all out. In the process though, I was scared. Super scared at leaving all that I know and love behind.

I started my new job in October, just after the long weekend. For the first two weeks, I actually stayed with a friend and travelled 40 minutes to the coast. Mid-October, I moved up to the coast. The move was stressful especially transporting the cats who were not happy. I was happy at work though and realised the team was awesome. Slowly and surely, I started to unpack and try to settle in.

November saw me trying to settle into my new place. I liked the coast but I did miss my unit in the Shire {I still do!}. I also found I was longing for family, which is weird because I rarely do. But I think it’s because in the end, I know I’m alone. I didn’t blog much but I did try to participate in NaNoWriMo — which didn’t go further than 6000 words! I got my hair cut short this month which was pretty cool! I also went to a friend’s wedding and hen’s night, therefore keeping me busy most weekends.

With December, I just began counting down the days to Christmas just to be able to have some much-needed time off. I had two of my friends come over to celebrate Christmas the week before Christmas. Finally, this month, I also came up with a new ‘project’ for 2017 — to Flourish Inside Out. I’m excited as it begins in two more sleeps! I am also in the process of contemplating some changes in life in terms of habits. Since Christmas, I’ve exercised every day and am feeling better for it.

So it’s been a crazy year. For most of it, it was crap but work certainly has brightened up and I am liking the area I live in. There’s more work to do emotionally but I hope Flourish Inside Out will help. In the mean time, I’m going to meditate, write, exercise and create new habits for 2017. Oh, and of course, chill out at the beach!

How was 2016 for you?

Do share the good, the bad and the ugly!

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away.

Corinne from Everyday Gyaan and yours truly give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up every Friday. The link will be open till the Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Prompts for this week:
1. Write about the month you were happiest in 2016
2. Reflect on 2016, the year gone by
3. Write on any of the prompts from December
4. “Realize that if a door closed, it’s because what was behind it wasn’t meant for you” – Mandy Hale. Use this in your post or an inspiration for one.
5. What is your Word of the Year for 2017? You’re welcome to link your post here and also on Laurel Regan’s blog 

Our featured writer for last week as voted by you, was Linda for her beautiful post on Christmas Contrasts. I personally couldn’t think of a better winner myself. You can be our featured writer for next week. All you have to do is write a post on one of the prompts, share and link up. And don’t forget, you can now vote for your favourite post of the week from Monday. 

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Ramya
    December 30, 2016 at 11:49 am

    Great year for you Sanch! Especially, many new projects and moving to a new place. All the best for your projects 🙂 I wish you more hiking, outings, campings, and tattoos 😀

  • Ramya
    December 30, 2016 at 11:49 am

    Great year for you Sanch! Especially, many new projects and moving to a new place. All the best for your projects 🙂 I wish you more hiking, outings, campings, and tattoos 😀

  • Linda
    December 30, 2016 at 11:52 am

    First of all, Oh. My. Gosh!!!! Thank you so much for voting for me all those who did. I don’t think I can remember when I’ve ever been voted for in anything much! That just made my week, and the end of this sometimes icky year lovely. Thank you for running this linky Sanch and Corinne.

    Sanch, when you write out your year month by month like that, it’s particularly engrossing….. it really was quite a journey in many ways. I’m so glad your job seems to be something you’re enjoying more. It sounds like the people you are working with now are nice to be around and good communicators. You went through an awful lot of change – new job, new home, staying with friends for a while, trying to fit hikes etc in when it sounds like you were really tired. 2016 seems to have been a year of loss and hardship for so many around the world. Sometimes I think hope is a foolish thing, but I keep on looking forward and hoping for better things for us all, and the world in general. Wishing you a peaceful, centered and freeing 2017. x

  • Linda
    December 30, 2016 at 11:52 am

    First of all, Oh. My. Gosh!!!! Thank you so much for voting for me all those who did. I don’t think I can remember when I’ve ever been voted for in anything much! That just made my week, and the end of this sometimes icky year lovely. Thank you for running this linky Sanch and Corinne.

    Sanch, when you write out your year month by month like that, it’s particularly engrossing….. it really was quite a journey in many ways. I’m so glad your job seems to be something you’re enjoying more. It sounds like the people you are working with now are nice to be around and good communicators. You went through an awful lot of change – new job, new home, staying with friends for a while, trying to fit hikes etc in when it sounds like you were really tired. 2016 seems to have been a year of loss and hardship for so many around the world. Sometimes I think hope is a foolish thing, but I keep on looking forward and hoping for better things for us all, and the world in general. Wishing you a peaceful, centered and freeing 2017. x

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    Lots of changes for you in 2016. Here is to a more settled 2017. Bring it on!
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  • Kaddu
    January 2, 2017 at 1:33 am

    Snape’s death was heart-breaking! 🙁

    2016 has been weird for so many people. And I agree… that’s what I felt for 2015 too. Sighhh. Let’s see how 2017 goes.

    I don’t know how you manage this weekly link-up, especially with multiple prompts every week. I want to start a link-up too, but don’t feel up to that sort of commitment at the moment.

    Well, Happy New Year to you! Take care!
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  • Kaddu
    January 2, 2017 at 1:33 am

    Snape’s death was heart-breaking! 🙁

    2016 has been weird for so many people. And I agree… that’s what I felt for 2015 too. Sighhh. Let’s see how 2017 goes.

    I don’t know how you manage this weekly link-up, especially with multiple prompts every week. I want to start a link-up too, but don’t feel up to that sort of commitment at the moment.

    Well, Happy New Year to you! Take care!
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