Pride is not an emotion you automatically think of when coming up with positive emotions. In fact, most references to pride are negative. It’s a deadly sin, it comes before a fall, and therefore we’ve been told for centuries it’s not good for us. But that’s exactly the positive emotion we are focussing on for June as part of Flourish Inside Out.
What is pride
Pride comes from feeling dignified and important in what we do. It is a sense of self-satisfaction of having accomplished something that is valued. It may come along from a sense of purpose and meaning in our accomplishments. (Source) Authentic pride is when you’re pleased with what you’ve achieved through hard work (Source).
Benefits of pride
- Authentic pride motivates you. Research has shown that people who feel this sense of pride will work twice as hard (Source).
- It increases self-control (Source)
- People who feel authentic pride tend to be more generous and empathic (Source)
- People who feel a sense of pride value future gain and are more like to persevere through initial difficulties in order to achieve those future goals (Source)
- Authentic pride promotes achievement (Source)
How to cultivate pride
- Focus on who you want to be as a person as opposed to what you want or what you need to do to impress others. Knowing your values will help you focus on your goals and take pride in what you then do as a result (Source)
- Keep reminders for yourself to keep working towards the best possible you (Source)
- Focus on hard work rather than natural ability. You are more likely to feel proud when you work for something than if you were just born with it (Source)
My plans for feeling proud
- Notice what I accomplish at work
- Figure out my life plan and start to set reminders to become a better me
- Write more
- Self-publish that poetry book this month
- Start working on my novel
- Submit a poem to a magazine/competition
I will continue to share photos on Instagram as part of #FlourishInsideOut. Some will focus on pride, others on just good things that happen. You are welcome to join in or just follow my journey.
How do you feel proud of yourself?
Until next time,