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Goodbye 2017 #FridayReflections #Yearinreview

As the year comes to an end, it’s only fitting to say goodbye 2017 while also remarking on how quickly time has flown. Honestly, I do believe the older we get, something happens in the space-time continuum which makes it move faster. 2017 has been an interesting year for me, a real mixed bag. 2013 and 2014 were amazing years followed by really crappy 2015 and 2016. I won’t lie – I was nervous about 2017. But in the end, while there was heartbreak and tears, there were more lessons, laughter, smiles and gratitude.

Work

At the start of 2017, I had been in my current job for only three months. By the end of the year, it feels like I’ve been there for more than two years. My team is constantly surprised when I say it’s only been a year. Work has been interesting. I know I love what I do when I work with young people and especially when I see changes. This year, professionally, it has been rewarding to see clients get better and tell me things I will cherish forever. Yet, there have been other things that have brought me down including seeing some beloved team members leave due to systemic issues and learning I am not cut out for management.

Writing

On the writing front, things went better than I expected. I won second place in a local short story competition and also wrote lots of words during NaNoWriMo. I’m still continuing with the manuscript and hope to have it at a publishable standard by the end of 2018. I also joined a local writing group in the middle of the year and the three women in that group are lovely and give great constructive feedback. Plus they write brilliantly!

I’ve been plodding along with the blog and ended up merging my creative writing and personal blogs because it got too hard to maintain them separately. I was especially proud of my A to Z challenge poetry efforts but have still not compiled them into an ebook as I’d planned. I might set that as a goal for 2018.

Relationships

In May this year, I called it quits on my almost three-year long relationship. Without getting into too many details because it doesn’t just involve me, it probably just wasn’t meant to be. It hurt a lot initially but I allowed myself to grieve this loss and process the pain. My friends were a great help through this period and some stress afterwards as was my therapist. I have moved past this and learnt valuable lessons. I have learnt who I am, what I can stand, what my deal-breakers are and what I still need to work on. I enjoy being single and being spontaneous. Of course, a spontaneous partner wouldn’t hurt but in the end, I value my freedom and independence. I may have broken a bit, but I’ve learnt a lot and am moving onwards.

Friendships

I cannot begin to thank my stars in this aspect. When I moved up to the Central Coast in 2016, I knew no one. Not a soul. And now, I am not planning on leaving the coast any time soon because of the connections and friends I’ve made. I still adore my friends in Sydney and manage to meet them at least every few months. But I’ve been fortunate in meeting some lovely ladies through my book club {thank goodness I set that up!} and some great friends through work. We go to dinners, drinks, barbecues, hikes, the beach often. I hit the gym with a couple of them who live nearby. One of my friends had me over for Christmas dinner. They have all in their own way supported me through my break up and I am so grateful to them. And then there’s some of you online. I have connected with some of you further than this space. I hope you know who you are. And while we may not have met yet, I do consider you as friends because I’m sure when we do meet next year, it’ll be like we’ve known each other all along. One of the biggest things I’ve learnt is by being vulnerable, I’ve certainly been able to make connections. Because people like authenticity. And people are authentic in return.

Mental health

After struggling with depression for most of 2015 and 2016, it was a relief when the black dog lifted. The anxiety or worry gremlins still remained and flared a lot during the relationship in particular. It’s not as bad anymore but being an anxious person, I know it will never go away. The good thing is I recognise it and know what works. It’s the same with depression; I know what to do before it gets really bad. This year, I made an effort to focus on things to be grateful for. And while there were times I couldn’t see any because of relationship or work stress, it helped at other times. Other things I did for my wellbeing included making connections with people, volunteering, writing, and of course, exercise.

Physical health and fitness

Due to the depression in 2016, I gained a bit of weight and ate a lot of crap. I started 2017 with the goal to get fitter and healthier. 12wbt helped to kickstart this and I was doing okay in the first few months of the year. It got harder in April as my relationship started to deteriorate but then, post-breakup, I exercised more and lost my appetite for a while. That picked up and after winter in particular, things have been a lot better. Thanks to some accountability partners at work and online, I have managed to get fitter and stronger. My weight hasn’t dropped all that much but I am no longer fussed as I can leg press about 97 kilos, squat about 40 kilos and do 22 toe push ups. None of which I could do at the start of the year.

My sinus issues haven’t been as frequent as last year thankfully and my hayfever allergies continue to be on and off. Still, it was no where as bad as 2016. I’ve been eating well while also indulging occasionally. Because in the end, it’s all about moderation.

I’m grateful for everything 2017 has given me. The trials and tribulations have helped me learn and have made me stronger. I cherish the friendships and the connections and hope to continue with them. The writing and exercise keep me sane.

Life isn’t meant to be one happy event after the other. If it weren’t for the dark times, we wouldn’t learn to appreciate the light. It’s why I appreciate 2017.

How was 2017 for you? 

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away.

Corinne from Everyday Gyaan and yours truly give you one writing prompts a week to blog about and link up every Friday. The link will be open till the Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

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The prompt for this week is ‘Looking back on 2017’


This also happens to be my very last time hosting Friday Reflections as I want to shift my focus next year. A huge shout-out to Corinne for being an amazing co-host for almost two years. She will be joined by Shalini in 2018. Stay tuned to their blogs to see what’s in store.

***Also linking up with Shailaja for her yearly wrap-up, Vidya for her end of year gratitude circle and Denyse for Life this week***

Featured image source: Pixabay

Until next time,

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34 Comments

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    Nabanita Dhar
    December 29, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    So glad that 2017 was good to you. I’m amazed at all that you have gone through and learnt. That’s life, isn’t it? Going through the troubled waters and emerging stronger. I wish you all the very best for 2018 and do hope you achieve everything that you hope for 🙂
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      Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      December 31, 2017 at 5:45 pm

      Thanks Naba. It’s interesting…until I reflected, I thought 2017 was crap because of stuff at work and the breakup but turns out, it was a whole lot better! Shit happens and yes, we wade through it. Thanks heaps for all the comments this year and the support 🙂 Hope 2018 is amazing for you!

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    Shalini
    December 29, 2017 at 4:50 pm

    I had a crappy 2015 and 2016, Sanch and like you, I was so worried about stepping into 2017. But yes, it was one of the best years of my life. I am so glad that your positive attitude could pull you through the hard times. Wish you all the best for 2018 and thanks for handing over the baton to me for Friday Reflections. Hope you will join us 🙂
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      Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      December 31, 2017 at 5:50 pm

      I’m so glad 2017 was good to you Shalini! I will continue to try and blog when I can for Friday Reflections without the pressure of hosting! 😛 You’ll be awesome at hosting!

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    Anagha Yatin (@anagha_yatin)
    December 29, 2017 at 8:42 pm

    Some sweet and some sour, the grapes in the bunch are great to devour! So is life, I suppose. I can see that you have taken the life head on and emerged stronger. Pat on on your back for that.
    Here is a wishing you a fabulous year ahead Sanch! Keep going and growing.

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      Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      December 31, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      I agree Anagha…life is full of ups and downs 🙂 Thanks for your lovely comment! Happy 2018 to you!

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    Jaibala Rao
    December 29, 2017 at 9:48 pm

    I agree Sanch, it is posts like this that make us think really hard and be grateful for the silver linings. Congrats on all your achievements and especially the NaNoWriMo, I know its not an easy challenge to get through. Looking forward to reading the book at the end of 2018. Stay Blessed and here’s to an amazing 2018.
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      Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      December 31, 2017 at 7:17 pm

      Thanks Jaibala! Until I wrote this post, I thought 2017 was more crap than good. Turns out, it was the other way around! I hope you have a wonderful 2018!

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    Natasha
    December 30, 2017 at 3:06 am

    More power to you in 2018. Salute your indomitable spirit, Sanch.
    I’m at awe with you strength at the gym. You so go!
    I’m so glad that you have tided over that cloak of depression and are in a good place. I get it as I’ve been there too.

    Have a blessed life always. Big love

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      Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      January 1, 2018 at 11:11 am

      Thanks Natasha! Depression is awful but once you get through it, you really learn to appreciate things more. Have a great 2018!

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    The Unknown Journey Ahead
    December 30, 2017 at 5:03 am

    You have a lot to be proud of! I haven’t had much of a chance to pause and truly look back at the last year, so my post was short. Best of luck in 2018-on a side note I think physical fitness is more important than having a bit of extra weight. I have to work on my fitness.

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      Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      January 2, 2018 at 7:14 pm

      Thank you! And I agree being fit is more important than the weight itself. 🙂

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    Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    December 31, 2017 at 1:14 pm

    You are so right about the dark times and the light. It sounds like 2017 was a bit of a mixed bag but I think you’ve shown it who’s boss – making new friends, being successful at work, and becoming fitter, healthier, happier and stronger – mentally and physically! I can’t see what you’re going to achieve in 2018! Hope it’s jam packed full of health and happiness!

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    Shailaja Vishwanath
    December 31, 2017 at 3:31 pm

    The way you picked yourself up after the breakup and came out stronger as a writer, blogger and person is so inspiring, Sanch. I saw both sides and know how tough it must have been for you!

    Your writing has matured as has your voice and I am glad to have found you all those years ago through Write Tribe and the A to Z. May 2018 be wonderful, filled with hope and fulfilled by promise. Wishing you lots of love and cheer.
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      Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      January 3, 2018 at 9:08 pm

      Thanks Shy! It was tough when it occurred and also for a while afterwards but thanks to support offline and online, I’ve worked through it. Thanks for your lovely comments and support throughout the year! Hope you have a wonderful 2018!

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    Bellybytes
    January 1, 2018 at 12:40 am

    You’ve had one busy year! And I’ll miss your prompts . Some were tough and some were not but I did enjoy the Friday posts . Good luck with 2018 and keep smiling
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      Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      January 3, 2018 at 9:09 pm

      The linky hasn’t ended…Corinne and Shalini will be hosting it in the new year. Hope you continue to link up with them! 🙂 Have a wonderful 2018

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    shilpa
    January 1, 2018 at 12:06 pm

    Hey, you are a such a strong girl, Love your attitude towards the life. All the best and a Happy New Year.

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    Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au
    January 1, 2018 at 2:03 pm

    Wow you’ve certainly had quite a year Sanch! I’m so glad you can look back on it and see all the positives – what you have learned and how much you’ve grown. I hope you build on this in 2018 and can look back in a year’s time with even more joy x

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    Sydney Shop Girl
    January 1, 2018 at 2:24 pm

    Happy New Year, Sanch! It’s been quite a year and you’ve come through it on your feet. Well done!

    May 2018 bring you even more happiness and success.

    SSG xxx

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    Min@WriteoftheMiddle
    January 1, 2018 at 3:03 pm

    Happy New Year Sanch! You certainly have had an eventful year. I’m very pleased to hear you’ve settled in well at your new home and location. Fantastic to have good friends! I’m so sorry about your relationship break up but as you say maybe it was the best thing in the end, painful as it is to go through it. After reading through your post I can say there are far more positives than negatives and I’m sure that 2018 will have even more for you. Wishing you happiness, heath and peace during the coming year and onwards! 🙂 xo

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    Denyse
    January 2, 2018 at 4:40 pm

    What a great round-up. I am so pleased that you are feeling better within yourself and that you are liking living up here too. I agree that it’s a good place to live. Unlike you I am yet to make many connections but I have met up with some on-line friends and of course, we hope to catch up too.
    Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 1/52 and next week’s optional prompt is Word or Intention for 2018.

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    Lindsay
    January 2, 2018 at 11:03 pm

    I legit have a hard time wrapping my head around the fact it’s 2018! Man how time flies. Sounds like 2017 was a huge year of change for you and much growth. Cheers to a better, greater and wonderful 2018 my friend. 🙂
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    Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    January 3, 2018 at 8:26 am

    Great post and a great reminder that it’s our challenges that make us stronger in the end. Love the quote by Brene Brown!

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    Parul Thakur
    January 4, 2018 at 12:00 am

    So proud of you! And you know I mean that. I have followed you and your journey – the walks, the food, the fun stuff and then the happy moments. You made efforts in the right direction and made life count. You know Sanch, I so agree to you that we would never appreciate life if it weren’t for the dark days. They put life is a different perspective and make us stay strong. Wishing you a happy 2018 and I wish for you a lot of things you want for yourself. Hugs!
    I missed linking so will do that to Friday Reflections right away! 🙂
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    Mark Blaise
    January 5, 2018 at 3:11 pm

    Hi Sanch,

    I discovered you through Vidya Sury’s Gratitude Circle Blog Hop as I’m also on there as Mark Blaise.

    I like the way you broke down your post by the areas of your life. You have a very nice little blog and a supportive community saying a lot of nice things about you.

    Don’t we all need to hear that every so often?

    I also had a challenging year, one of the worst of my life. If it wasn’t one thing it was another. But have come through it intact and I’m sure 2018 will be much kinder to me. Can’t get any worse, hahaha …

    Anyway, just wanted to say Hi, being a fellow blogger and all.

    Cheers,

    Mark
    LiveLoveLaughBeHappy.com

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    pragun
    January 7, 2018 at 5:13 am

    Happy 2018 and happy blogging
    Love your blog and posts, i’m a regular reader.

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    Charlotte
    January 9, 2018 at 1:44 am

    I love love love your eternal optimism and acceptance of who you are. It’s so refreshing to read! I’m sorry that 2017 didn’t shape up to be the best year, but it sounds as though you learned so much about yourself through some of these trials and tribulations (sometimes when a relationship comes to a close, it can teach us the most, eh?).

    Sending much love and all the best for 2018. I’m glad to hear you’ve met so many wonderful people in your new space, and that you’re connecting via reading groups and your writing. Keep at it; your words are beautiful 🙂 Happy new year!
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